Quality Time In Marriage Part 1

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When we were young we were taught by our parents to manage our time wisely w just like how a wise men runs his business. Everything should be spent productively. Every penny counts and every business deal is a must.

The same with marriage it is not all about giving expensive things to your love ones it is not about giving them all the luxury gadgets in your house or just dropping by food without your presence while enjoying it. Marriage is not all about materials and luxury, it is more on time well spent together, exchanging I love you and I miss you, complementing each other strengths, and supporting and giving a hug during tough times.

Sure thing that work can be demanding especially when you are pot for promotion we need a job to send the kids to school, to pay the bills, to enjoy leisure at times. However too much can work can affect your married life and quality time with your family.

Remember you marry your wife not your job. At the end of the day you work to provide their needs so better spend more quality time with them.

A family that eats together makes a happy family be there when your wife is busy preparing your favorite dinner. Be there when your son is ready to show how his skills hone up in school, be there when your child wants to shows his exam papers because he passed all the subjects.

Be there with them and your because they need you and your TIME.

Married Life: Sail the boat with God Part 2

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When we decided to follow God and his teachings to us every married couple can surpass all the trials that they will go through. It is much easier for them to hold on to God’s promises knowing that tey have a strong foundation in their faith.

Is it amazing?

How God loves and protect us all especially in marriage. When time comes when your spouse is weak and have trouble in herself/himself just go and bring him to God and ask for guidance and wisdom because God’s comfort is the most relaxing and healing feeling to feel.

Jeremiah 31:3, where the Lord appeared saying “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” Or John 15:19, “As the Father has loved Me [Jesus] so have I loved you,”

When you sail the boat think about how many waves that you have to sail before you reach your destination. Think about how many storms that you have to go through. Stick together as a couple and sail with God the best wheel and anchor in married life.

Married Life: Sail the boat with God Part 1

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Over a couple of years we are curious enough on who will the person that we will end up to? Who will sail the boat with us? Who will be our partner in life? Who will be our best-friend? Who will be our companion?

It was a long journey for others to find their one true love maybe they spent a couple of years trying to seek for it and ended up in a failed relationship. Maybe they spent a number years to finally wait the person that is God has given to them.

When that day comes you will be the happiest person on earth because you finally meet the love of your life. The partner, husband, and husband/wife that you have been praying for.

Is it important that he/she loves God than you as his/her spouse?

Jesus tells us that the first and greatest commandment is that we love God with all our heart, soul, mind and strength. (Mark 12:29-30).
The most important thing is that your spouse loves Jesus because when he/she does everything falls into place this is the reminder that he is a child of God.

Choose Love and Stay In-love Part 2

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“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:12

Marriage is like a roller coaster ride you can go up and eventually down it is cycle where there are many stop-over . It requires deep understanding and strong faith in God. Marriage is not easy there are factors that affects it and there are reasons to fight for it. Marriage is between the union of two individual who decided to be with accordance of the will of God. Together the married couple has a strong bundle; the wife, the husband, and the presence of God through this their life together will have a strong foundation and it cannot be broken nor destroyed.

 

“Be completely humble and gentle; Be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace.”- Ephesians 4:2-3

 

Choose to be humble because humility always wins from deep understanding to each others flaws to appreciating each others strengths. Be patient with your spouse there will be times that you will feel that he/she is not doing any actions to correct a certain issues between your marriage maybe you just have to be patient enough as your spouse is still building and analyzing on how he/she will be able to address certain issues that you are facing as a couple the most important thing is that you give each other ties to grow, learn, and change for the better. This verse reminds us that be patient with each others, make time to hear each other side, and then be humble always through it you will be able to have less arguments since you know how to handle each other.

 

 

 

Choose Love and Stay In-love Part 1

 

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“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”- 1 Peter 4:8

If there is a one thing that you should never give up its marriage.

People change in a lot of ways, your husband may change at some point in time, he may change his favorite color, he may change his favorite dish, he may change his favorite perfume, and at some point his love for may grow or may shrink.There will be times that your Friday night date may become lesser due to the demands of work and so much more demands in other aspect in life.

There will be times that you will feel sad and lonely you need someone’s hand and arms to hold you tight but then your partner can be naive at some times due to tiredness,lack of desire and problems that he/she keeps on thinking. At some in point in time you will loss the burning passion of your marriage, sometimes you forget the reason behind the butterflies in your stomach, you forget the smile to your face when you see your wedding pictures, sometimes the problems piles up along the way.

But choose Love because it a decision this verse reminds us how powerful the Love of God to us and how it can cover a number of sins especially in marriage.

Wife, Is It Really Hard To Submit To Your Husband? Part2

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As a wife, you have to realize that that very moment that you and your husband made a vow with each other and with the Lord, you already have a team partner and in a team, there is surely a leader, and that is your husband. If you’ll clearly review the bible, in the book of Genesis, Adam came first in this world and Eve was made out of his ribs.

That simply shows that God has given Adam a role, as the head of the family. As a wife, it’s not about you arguing with him because you are right. Rather, you should be his supporter, intercessor, and a helping hand to build a Godly generation.

Let’s not forget about TRUST. If God is really the center of your marriage, then you should learn how to trust God as he appointed your husband to be the leader of your family. Trust him, allow him to take over his responsibilities as a husband to you and as a father to your children. Let him feel his role, as he will let yours, too. This will help both of you grow together in building your family in the Lord.

It really takes humility to submit to your husband. It might be hard since as a human being we were born with a self-centered nature, but let the love of God motivate you in doing this. Let your obedience be a pleasing aroma to God. After all, obedience is the greatest form of worship, just as Jesus obeyed His Father.

Wife, Is It Really Hard To Submit To Your Husband? Part1

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“I should be the one handling this situation, I’m the wife and this is my expertise.”
“He should not tell me what to do, I have my own rights.”
These are some of the complaints husbands receive from their wives. Now, it all sums up with the word SUBMISSION. Is it really hard for a wife to submit to her husband?
Nowadays, submission is really a big issue between a husband and a wife, and if this is not applied properly in a marriage, this can lead to burnouts, and if this isn’t prevented, it can unfortunately lead to a divorce, which is depressing.
Submission to your husband is a difficult thing to do if you don’t fully understand the reason why you are doing it.
According to Ephesians 5:22-24, Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”
It was clearly stated that wives should submit themselves to their husbands. Like how we should submit as the church to Christ. Some people might think of this verse differently, they might think that submission is about controlling, but in this context, it is not.

Love or Lust? Why did you stay in your relationship? Is it because of love or lust? Part2

 

untitledA relationship should not focus in lust when you feel lust it is an urging sexual and body needs a healthy relationship will not rely in your sexual needs alone. It is about mutual feelings for each other and a Christ-centered relationship. Temptations are everywhere and having a lustful relationship will not make your relationship stronger it only weakens your relationship since you focus in your sexual desires rather than your relationship with the guidance of our Lord. Women should know the boundaries whenever you are in relationship make sure to trust your instinct the most because a a woman’s gut feeling is mostly true. Listen to your soul and ask for guidance to the Lord.

If you stay in a relationship because of lust think twice, thrice, and a million times over. If you are in a lustful relationship you will feel this way:

– You feel that your girlfriend or boyfriend is your lover and not your friend

A foundation of a healthy relationship is friendship it all starts in building a friendship then eventually build a relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend so that if you are having a problem in your relationship you already have a foundation that you have build it is easier for you to address some issues since you already know that person as a friend before he/she becomes your girlfriend/boyfriend.

– You are interested in having sex rather than having conversation

A healthy relationship should have a consistent conversation with one hello and asking the whereabouts to your boyfriend/girlfriend because time will come our body will change those tight skin will tend to loose as days pass and age will add another number but only conversation from each other will leave and stands as your daily communication to each other.

-You focused on a person’s looks and body

When it is love you do not focus solely on the physical appearance of a person but then focus on the attitude and well-being of a person.

However if you are in a healthy relationship that is guarded by love it means that you

– Spending a quality time with your boyfriend/girlfriend is a must for you

– Meeting with her/his parents makes you happy since you want to know more about his/her family

– You are vocal for your feelings to her

– Motivating each other is one of the things that you love doing to her/him reminding each other how great he/she as a person

Love is an exciting emotion to feel it is bounded by two people who wants their relationship to work out the next time you feel urge about something choose love rather than lust. A healthy relationship is have love and always guided by God.

Love or Lust? Why did you stay in your relationship? Is it because of love or lust? Part1

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When you asks the definition of love to other people you will get a divergent answer.Love have various meaning to different people; love for your family wherein you sacrifice to work overseas to give them a comfortable living, love to your dogs wherein you make sure that it is properly nourish by giving food, building shelter, and attending the dog’s daily medication, and loving someone which everyone wants to feel; to loved and be loved.

According to Wikipedia love is define as Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection. another definition of love from psychology point of view.Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. However Merriam-Webster dictionary also has its fair-share definition of love a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person, attraction that includes sexual desire : the strong affection felt by people who have a romantic relationship. A strong relationship needs a daily dose of respect, love, and understanding.

Did you stay in your relationship for love or lust?

Lust is a different from love it is defined by Wikipedia as Lust is an emotion or feeling of intense desire in the body. The lust can take any form such as the lust for sex, lust for expensive objects (extravagance) or the lust for power.However Merriam-Webster dictionary defined lust as a strong feeling of sexual desire: a strong desire for something.

1 Thessalonians 4:7-8, “God has called us to be holy, not to live impure lives. Anyone who refuses to live by these rules is not disobeying human rules but is rejecting God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.” If lust has not yet gripped your heart and mind, ready yourself through a life lived above reproach to combat the temptations of lust. If you currently struggle with lust, it is time to come clean before God and ask for His intervention in your life, so that holiness can be a mark of your life as well.

Married Loneliness? Time to Connect with Christ Part 2

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You’re sitting there right now, your spouse in the room, and dialog from your television is humming in the background. One of you is focused on the TV; the other on this page. In your mind, you’re playing over the list of things on your to-do list and perhaps you’re stewing just a little over how few of them your spouse has volunteered to take over.

You find yourself thinking back to the earliest days of your relationship when you felt so connected and so sure. Now, however, you are physically together and yet you are feeling deeply alone. Sound familiar? First, let me reassure you, even in the healthiest of marriages, it happens. The question is: how do we fill in that empty feeling?

But He Really Does

The good news is that there is one who can complete us and make us whole. In fact, it’s often these moments of loneliness that we may find ourselves in the best position to commune with Christ. Luke 5:16 says “Jesus withdrew into lonely places and he prayed.” Although Luke is describing a physical place and not an emotional loneliness, the point remains that this sense of being on our own opens the door for a more complete and focused time. God doesn’t speak to us with a deep, loud, resonating voice from on-high. He comes beside us with a still, small whisper that we hear only when we’re quiet, focused and listening. When we turn to Him in these moments, we find a wholeness no single person could ever give us.

Challenge: Where are you seeking fulfillment? Ask yourself, are you looking to your marriage to meet needs that you should be looking to Christ to meet? Find your lonely place and pray.