There is no perfect marriage. And in case you didn’t get the memo, husband and wife aren’t perfect either. The issue is that most of us don’t understand relationship maintenance at all or how to care for each other past the first blush of heat.
Just like good nutrition and regular exercise can help you to have a healthy body, there are things you can do to have a healthy marriage.
Habit 4: Venting to your public
Neither your social media status nor your friend’s inbox is the place to release your frustrations with your spouse. Turning your latest frustration into a Facebook post isn’t about releasing what bugs you. It’s really more about amassing a team of folks on ‘your side’ who can validate your feelings. If you’re annoyed with your spouse, tell your spouse.
Habit 5: Overconfidence
Even the healthiest marriages need tending. When things are going good and we’re happily in love with one another, it’s easy to coast. Don’t. Make time to spend together. Talk about the things that make you happy, as well as the things that don’t. Compliment your spouse. Pray for each other. Evaluate your relationship habits and see where you can improve. Your marriage is always a work in progress.
Challenge: What habit do you need to break? What steps will you take to break it? Talk to your spouse and ask for support in making the change.
The key to nurturing a healthy marriage lies as much in what you should not do as it does in what you should do. We’ve talked a lot recently about steps you should take, like how to fight fairer and communicate more clearly. Let’s look at the other side of the coin. If you’ve got one of these 5 bad habits, it’s time to break it.
Habit 1: The affair with your phone (and other tech)
We live in a world of constant connectedness. It reminds me of a recent exchange on Facebook. A friend posted, as he often does, “Out to breakfast with my wife.” Another person replied, “Shouldn’t you be talking to your wife instead of posting about it?” When you’re with your spouse, or anyone else for that matter, put the phone away. Focus on the person sitting with you right now.
Habit 2: Peacekeeping
A quest to avoid all disagreement is unrealistic. Consistently biting your tongue and acquiescing to avoid conflict will breed resentment. Critiquing your spouse’s method of folding laundry is not a battle worth having. Feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list and wishing you had more assistance is a dialogue you need to have.
Habit 3: Comparing your spouse / relationship
Have you had one of those “Why aren’t you more like him/her” moments? That trait or exchange you are wistfully eyeing and wishing for in your own life was a single snapshot moment in someone else’s. You’re not seeing their whole reality. Don’t covet what you imagine exists. Step back and focus on what is wonderful in your own relationship with your own spouse.
Every relationships are different. But a strong connection between two persons, it can comfort to know that you are not alone in life. Communication is the key to make strong any relationship. Because we share our feeling, problems, matters with each others everyday. Couples who learn to solve problems constructively together cut their risk for stress-related health problems including depression, cardiovascular disease, and lowered immunity.
Here are the common relationship problems and the solutions:
Transparency VS Doubt
You cannot blame yourself if sometimes you doubt your spouse especially if he is not transparent to you. The common reason why couple end up their relationship is because there is no more trust and there are many times that one has no time to explain his side. Conclusions were made without even listening to one another.
For you not to doubt your spouse, be transparent so that he will be transparent to you as well. You love each other so all you have to do is to understand each other. When you have something to doubt, confront your partner so that you will not think of the negative ones. Confrontation and communication will always be the key.
Money is very important in any status in life- single or married. Money is one of the main reasons why a married couple is always fighting and blaming each other. Sometimes, one is very secretive about the compensation received and one is very investigative about how much will get.
The solution is both of you should be transparent and should lay all the information about your incomes. You are already in one flesh so there should not be greediness between the two of you and you do not give an enemy a foothold in your relationship especially in this issue.