Category Archives: Marriage Advice

Wife, Is It Really Hard To Submit To Your Husband? Part2

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As a wife, you have to realize that that very moment that you and your husband made a vow with each other and with the Lord, you already have a team partner and in a team, there is surely a leader, and that is your husband. If you’ll clearly review the bible, in the book of Genesis, Adam came first in this world and Eve was made out of his ribs.

That simply shows that God has given Adam a role, as the head of the family. As a wife, it’s not about you arguing with him because you are right. Rather, you should be his supporter, intercessor, and a helping hand to build a Godly generation.

Let’s not forget about TRUST. If God is really the center of your marriage, then you should learn how to trust God as he appointed your husband to be the leader of your family. Trust him, allow him to take over his responsibilities as a husband to you and as a father to your children. Let him feel his role, as he will let yours, too. This will help both of you grow together in building your family in the Lord.

It really takes humility to submit to your husband. It might be hard since as a human being we were born with a self-centered nature, but let the love of God motivate you in doing this. Let your obedience be a pleasing aroma to God. After all, obedience is the greatest form of worship, just as Jesus obeyed His Father.

Wife, Is It Really Hard To Submit To Your Husband? Part1

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“I should be the one handling this situation, I’m the wife and this is my expertise.”
“He should not tell me what to do, I have my own rights.”
These are some of the complaints husbands receive from their wives. Now, it all sums up with the word SUBMISSION. Is it really hard for a wife to submit to her husband?
Nowadays, submission is really a big issue between a husband and a wife, and if this is not applied properly in a marriage, this can lead to burnouts, and if this isn’t prevented, it can unfortunately lead to a divorce, which is depressing.
Submission to your husband is a difficult thing to do if you don’t fully understand the reason why you are doing it.
According to Ephesians 5:22-24, Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”
It was clearly stated that wives should submit themselves to their husbands. Like how we should submit as the church to Christ. Some people might think of this verse differently, they might think that submission is about controlling, but in this context, it is not.

Love or Lust? Why did you stay in your relationship? Is it because of love or lust? Part2

 

untitledA relationship should not focus in lust when you feel lust it is an urging sexual and body needs a healthy relationship will not rely in your sexual needs alone. It is about mutual feelings for each other and a Christ-centered relationship. Temptations are everywhere and having a lustful relationship will not make your relationship stronger it only weakens your relationship since you focus in your sexual desires rather than your relationship with the guidance of our Lord. Women should know the boundaries whenever you are in relationship make sure to trust your instinct the most because a a woman’s gut feeling is mostly true. Listen to your soul and ask for guidance to the Lord.

If you stay in a relationship because of lust think twice, thrice, and a million times over. If you are in a lustful relationship you will feel this way:

– You feel that your girlfriend or boyfriend is your lover and not your friend

A foundation of a healthy relationship is friendship it all starts in building a friendship then eventually build a relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend so that if you are having a problem in your relationship you already have a foundation that you have build it is easier for you to address some issues since you already know that person as a friend before he/she becomes your girlfriend/boyfriend.

– You are interested in having sex rather than having conversation

A healthy relationship should have a consistent conversation with one hello and asking the whereabouts to your boyfriend/girlfriend because time will come our body will change those tight skin will tend to loose as days pass and age will add another number but only conversation from each other will leave and stands as your daily communication to each other.

-You focused on a person’s looks and body

When it is love you do not focus solely on the physical appearance of a person but then focus on the attitude and well-being of a person.

However if you are in a healthy relationship that is guarded by love it means that you

– Spending a quality time with your boyfriend/girlfriend is a must for you

– Meeting with her/his parents makes you happy since you want to know more about his/her family

– You are vocal for your feelings to her

– Motivating each other is one of the things that you love doing to her/him reminding each other how great he/she as a person

Love is an exciting emotion to feel it is bounded by two people who wants their relationship to work out the next time you feel urge about something choose love rather than lust. A healthy relationship is have love and always guided by God.

Love or Lust? Why did you stay in your relationship? Is it because of love or lust? Part1

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When you asks the definition of love to other people you will get a divergent answer.Love have various meaning to different people; love for your family wherein you sacrifice to work overseas to give them a comfortable living, love to your dogs wherein you make sure that it is properly nourish by giving food, building shelter, and attending the dog’s daily medication, and loving someone which everyone wants to feel; to loved and be loved.

According to Wikipedia love is define as Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection. another definition of love from psychology point of view.Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. However Merriam-Webster dictionary also has its fair-share definition of love a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person, attraction that includes sexual desire : the strong affection felt by people who have a romantic relationship. A strong relationship needs a daily dose of respect, love, and understanding.

Did you stay in your relationship for love or lust?

Lust is a different from love it is defined by Wikipedia as Lust is an emotion or feeling of intense desire in the body. The lust can take any form such as the lust for sex, lust for expensive objects (extravagance) or the lust for power.However Merriam-Webster dictionary defined lust as a strong feeling of sexual desire: a strong desire for something.

1 Thessalonians 4:7-8, “God has called us to be holy, not to live impure lives. Anyone who refuses to live by these rules is not disobeying human rules but is rejecting God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.” If lust has not yet gripped your heart and mind, ready yourself through a life lived above reproach to combat the temptations of lust. If you currently struggle with lust, it is time to come clean before God and ask for His intervention in your life, so that holiness can be a mark of your life as well.

Married Loneliness? Time to Connect with Christ Part 2

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You’re sitting there right now, your spouse in the room, and dialog from your television is humming in the background. One of you is focused on the TV; the other on this page. In your mind, you’re playing over the list of things on your to-do list and perhaps you’re stewing just a little over how few of them your spouse has volunteered to take over.

You find yourself thinking back to the earliest days of your relationship when you felt so connected and so sure. Now, however, you are physically together and yet you are feeling deeply alone. Sound familiar? First, let me reassure you, even in the healthiest of marriages, it happens. The question is: how do we fill in that empty feeling?

But He Really Does

The good news is that there is one who can complete us and make us whole. In fact, it’s often these moments of loneliness that we may find ourselves in the best position to commune with Christ. Luke 5:16 says “Jesus withdrew into lonely places and he prayed.” Although Luke is describing a physical place and not an emotional loneliness, the point remains that this sense of being on our own opens the door for a more complete and focused time. God doesn’t speak to us with a deep, loud, resonating voice from on-high. He comes beside us with a still, small whisper that we hear only when we’re quiet, focused and listening. When we turn to Him in these moments, we find a wholeness no single person could ever give us.

Challenge: Where are you seeking fulfillment? Ask yourself, are you looking to your marriage to meet needs that you should be looking to Christ to meet? Find your lonely place and pray.

Married Loneliness? Time to Connect with Christ Part 1

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You’re sitting there right now, your spouse in the room, and dialog from your television is humming in the background. One of you is focused on the TV; the other on this page. In your mind, you’re playing over the list of things on your to-do list and perhaps you’re stewing just a little over how few of them your spouse has volunteered to take over.

You find yourself thinking back to the earliest days of your relationship when you felt so connected and so sure. Now, however, you are physically together and yet you are feeling deeply alone. Sound familiar? First, let me reassure you, even in the healthiest of marriages, it happens. The question is: how do we fill in that empty feeling?

You “Don’t” Complete Me

Even if you never saw the film Jerry McGuire you’re likely aware of that pivotal relationship moment between Jerry and Dorothy. Standing there, desperate to convey his feelings, Jerry says, “I love you. You…complete… me.” Of course we connected with that moment because that is what we’ve been conditioned to look for, is it not? We speak of ‘my other half.’ We talk about ‘soul mates.’ Yet, in doing so we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. The reality is no one person can meet all our needs. When we look for another individual to fill that empty place inside, to complete us and make us whole, we are tasking that individual with the impossible.

Challenge: Where are you seeking fulfillment? Ask yourself, are you looking to your marriage to meet needs that you should be looking to Christ to meet? Find your lonely place and pray.

Become Man, Wife in God: Nurturing a spiritually-based marriage Part 2

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When you got married, the officiant likely ended the ceremony by introducing you and your spouse as man and wife for the first time. Did you know that someone was left out in that introduction? A marriage isn’t, after all, a relationship between two people. It’s a relationship between two people and God.

What if, however, you’ve pushed God aside in the marriage as a silent partner? How do you and your spouse make Him an active participant again? Here are three tips to cultivating a faith-centered marriage:

Count Your Blessings

Today ‘busy’ is the norm. You likely feel as if you juggle more than you relax or that you run more than you sit still. Being stressed and tired makes it easier for our eyes to sharpen the negatives and blur the positives out of focus. It becomes reflex to see where our partner is not measuring up to some standard we’ve set or to notice the little things that are wearing our patience down. It’s hard to be happy, especially happy with one another, when we’re focusing on the imperfections. Taking time each day to focus on the good things about your partner and your life together brings the positive back into focus. More importantly thank God for those blessings.

Challenge: This week, make God the center of your marriage. Pick a piece of scripture that speaks to you both. Pray over it. Discuss it. Take a moment each day to pray together. Make sure to thank God for your blessings when you do. What scripture speaks most to you and your spouse? What are you grateful for today?

Become Man, Wife in God: Nurturing a spiritually-based marriage Part 1

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When you got married, the officiant likely ended the ceremony by introducing you and your spouse as man and wife for the first time. Did you know that someone was left out in that introduction? A marriage isn’t, after all, a relationship between two people. It’s a relationship between two people and God.

What if, however, you’ve pushed God aside in the marriage as a silent partner? How do you and your spouse make Him an active participant again? Here are three tips to cultivating a faith-centered marriage:

Pray Together

When we pray honestly, we are laid bare. We reveal our vulnerabilities. We drop pretext. Is there anything more intimate than this? Even more significant, however, is that praying together invites Christ directly into your relationship. Remember, in Matthew 18:20 Jesus says, “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”

Read Scripture Together. Study Scripture together

The Bible is the living word of God. When we schedule time to read scripture together, we are saying God’s message to us is important. We are making our faith a priority. When we study scripture together we delve into a deeper understanding of God’s word and what it means for our lives and our relationship.

Love is an Action Verb: Living 1 Corinthians 13:4 Part2

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The word “love” is often used as a noun: a way to label an emotion or state of being. Love is also used as a passive verb: more of an abstract emotion or a focus on a physical draw that we feel intently. In fact, take a look at the way the Merriam Webster dictionary defines the word:
“Love: n. a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person. v. to feel great affection for (someone) : to feel love for (someone)”
The Bible, however, tell us something entirely different; it tells us that “love” is an action verb.
Love Does Not Envy:
Are you home with a young child while your spouse is at work: talking to adults, using the bathroom alone and in peace, and finishing a cup of coffee while it’s still hot? Maybe you wish you had your spouse’s gregarious nature or special talent. Regardless, when envy rears its ugly head, resentment quickly steps in. Close that door, because love does not envy.
Love Does Not Boast:
That last time you argued and it turned it out you were right? Love isn’t interested in “I told you so!” We may relish that feeling of vindication, sure. It isn’t doing our relationship any favors, however. Let it go.
Love is Not Proud:
So that last time you argued and you were wrong? It can be hard to admit we made a mistake. Apologizing can be a blow to our ego. Love squashes down pride and does it anyway. (Need help saying you’re sorry? Try this:  I’m sorry: How to say it and mean it.
Challenge: Read 1 Corinthians 13:4 this week. How will you exhibit the action verb “love” in your relationships? Come back here next week to dig deeper into 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.

Love is an Action Verb: Living 1 Corinthians 13:4 Part1

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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ~ 1 Corinthians 13:4
The word “love” is often used as a noun: a way to label an emotion or state of being. Love is also used as a passive verb: more of an abstract emotion or a focus on a physical draw that we feel intently. In fact, take a look at the way the Merriam Webster dictionary defines the word:
“Love: n. a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person. v. to feel great affection for (someone) : to feel love for (someone)”
The Bible, however, tell us something entirely different; it tells us that “love” is an action verb.
Love is Patient:
You know that bad habit your spouse has? That one that just got on your last raw nerve merely thinking about it? That one. Ask yourself this: is it worth your frustration? Love is patient. Take a deep breathe. Focus on the big picture and don’t sweat the small stuff.
Love is Kind:
Whether it’s confusing sarcasm and teasing for quick wit or going for the easy verbal jab when angry, we can all push “kind” to the wayside. Bring it back. Love is kind. Love doesn’t engage in name calling or put-downs. Remain respectful.