“We Don’t Need Help” and Other Marriage Myths

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I’ll let you in on a little relationship secret: one of the biggest threats to a healthy marriage is unrealistic expectations. We’re not talking about placing your spouse on a pedestal, although that certainly isn’t a helpful move. This is buying into the myths we are told about marriage – unattainable statements that we allow to define the success or failure of our relationship. Are you using one of these myths as a yard stick?

  1. We’ve got this, we don’t need help

Does your church offer a marriage and relationship Bible study or discussion group? Do you and your spouse attend? Many perceive such groups as refuge for struggling or ‘at-risk’ marriages only. Nothing could be further from the truth. The reality is healthy marriages are a constant work in progress. Participating in marriage-themed Bible studies or reading blogs and articles can help you and your spouse nurture, and even strengthen an already healthy bond.

  1. If you loved me, you’d know

Somewhere along the way we’ve come to believe that our true love will know us inside and out. With that, we may develop the notion that our innermost desires and wants will simply be known. While it’s true that our spouses may grow to know us better than anyone else, it’s also true that our spouses are not mind readers. Don’t assume your spouse knows what is upsetting you, what you desire or what you need. Communicate it clearly.

  1. Marriage will make it better

Whether it’s a conflict between you and your spouse or an issue with extended family, finances, or any other concern you may have, let’s get something clear: Marriage isn’t the cure. Your expectations in this case may even exacerbate the problem. The things that were an issue before will be an issue after you walk down the aisle, unless you actively work on them.

  1. If we’re meant to be, our marriage will be happy

Marriage is not magic. Marriage is work. Love isn’t a panacea, it’s a choice that we make daily. Even healthy relationships have their struggles. The difference is those couples get up each day and make the choice to love one another anyway.

Challenge: What myth do you need to rethink? Spend time this week praying for authentic expectations.

28 thoughts on ““We Don’t Need Help” and Other Marriage Myths

  1. I agree 100 percent- we are to be submissive one to another – one of the biggest threats to a healthy marriage is unrealistic expectations.

    1. Yes Riya it is very easy to have unrealistic expectations. It is good you realize not to do that. Blessings to you in the new year!

    1. You are right Jonathan, marriage is not magic, it takes work, but the benefits of working on it are fantastic. Happy New Year!

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