Strengthening Your Marriage: It’s the little things that count

If you’re like most married couples, life can sometimes get in the way of your relationship. Work. Kids. Various other obligations. Before you know it, your time to interact and connect as a couple is taking a backseat to all the other things on your respective plates. You start to feel like you are merely occupying the same space and that you’ve lost the giddy-new love couple you were back in the earliest days of your relationship. The idea of devoting the time and energy to strengthening your marriage may even seem overwhelming. Continue reading “Strengthening Your Marriage: It’s the little things that count”

5 Steps to Improve Communication for a Better, Stronger Marriage

Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.
~ David Augsburger

Every day communication can often start to feel like a bad game of telephone. You say one thing and your spouse hears or remembers hearing something different. It can be frustrating or worse, especially if it occurs often, it can cripple a relationship. Have you been there? Here are 5 tips you can use today to improve your communication and your marriage: Continue reading “5 Steps to Improve Communication for a Better, Stronger Marriage”

Married Loneliness? Time to Connect with Christ

You’re sitting there right now, your spouse in the room, and dialog from your television is humming in the background. One of you is focused on the TV; the other on this page. In your mind, you’re playing over the list of things on your to-do list and perhaps you’re stewing just a little over how few of them your spouse has volunteered to take over. You find yourself thinking back to the earliest days of your relationship when you felt so connected and so sure. Now, however, you are physically together and yet you are feeling deeply alone. Sound familiar? First, let me reassure you, even in the healthiest of marriages, it happens. The question is: how do we fill in that empty feeling?

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You “Don’t” Complete Me

Even if you never saw the film Jerry McGuire you’re likely aware of that pivotal relationship moment between Jerry and Dorothy. Standing there, desperate to convey his feelings, Jerry says, “I love you. You…complete… me.” Of course we connected with that moment because that is what we’ve been conditioned to look for, is it not? We speak of ‘my other half.’ We talk about ‘soul mates.’ Yet, in doing so we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. The reality is no one person can meet all our needs. When we look for another individual to fill that empty place inside, to complete us and make us whole, we are tasking that individual with the impossible. Continue reading “Married Loneliness? Time to Connect with Christ”

Become Man, Wife and God: Nurturing a spiritually-based marriage

When you got married, the officiant likely ended the ceremony by introducing you and your spouse as man and wife for the first time. Did you know that someone was left out in that introduction? A marriage isn’t, after all, a relationship between two people. It’s a relationship between two people and God.

What if, however, you’ve pushed God aside in the marriage as a silent partner? How do you and your spouse make Him an active participant again? Here are three tips to cultivating a faith-centered marriage:

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Pray Together

When we pray honestly, we are laid bare. We reveal our vulnerabilities. We drop pretext. Is there anything more intimate than this? Even more significant, however, is that praying together invites Christ directly into your relationship. Remember, in Matthew 18:20 Jesus says, “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”

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STARTING ALL OVER- CAN A RELATIONSHIP SURVIVE INFIDELITY?

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STARTING ALL OVER- CAN A RELATIONSHIP SURVIVE INFIDELITY?

Infidelity comes in different forms, shapes and sizes. Some find it relative from one situation to another but the truth is whatever makes your partner feel betrayed and hurt is regarded as infidelity.

“Why” is often the hardest and most painful question to address after someone cheats. It’s easier to respond with “where,” “when” and “how,” but those questions seldom offer the answers that fill your deepest needs. “Why?” is the one resounding question that will echo through your mind long after an affair. Continue reading “STARTING ALL OVER- CAN A RELATIONSHIP SURVIVE INFIDELITY?”