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Marriage Mistakes

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There is no perfect marriage but a wife and a husband can be a better partner by trying the best to make their relationship stronger, healthier and happier. These are the problems a marriage possibly exist and these are also the things you need to do to overcome them:
Telling Your Friends About Your Problems
Friends can be your crying shoulder when things go wrong. You can ask for advice but actually you do not have to tell all the details of your problem to a point that your friends will hate your spouse. Mostly women do this, if there is a problem in their marriage, they usually go to their friends but telling only the one side of the story. You should avoid that because it will not fix the problem, it will make the problem worse. Sometimes, you do not actually ask for advice, you just want to hear someone agreeing you.
Expecting Him to Change
Do not expect him to change the way you want it to be. Changing him to be your ideal husband is not good. In the first place,you marry him because you accept who he is and you love just the way he is. He is not a robot that you can program a quality that you want in him as your husband. Do not expect him to change but help him to be a better person.
Connecting With Your Spouse
Connection is very important in marriage and it should be present everyday of your life. Without connection, it is very impossible to move forward as well as achieving your plans in the future together. You need to have a constant communication especially about what is going on to your individual life and you should not sleep or end your day without talking anything you want to say. Others forget to be honest and transparent to their spouse, worse is, others forget to ask help to their spouse especially when problems arise. You need to remember that you are not only in a relationship, you are also in a partnership forever.
Selfishness
Once you are committed to someone especially in marriage, being selfish is a no no. This time, you should not think for your own benefit but you should also consider your spouse. Before making a decision, you should ask or consult your spouse before giving your final answer. Selflessness is a key for an effective and happy marriage life. Love is never selfish.

Wife’s Responsibilities To Her Husband

Wifes Responsibilities To Her Husband
A Godly wife is very different from a worldly wife. Commonly, a wife is just at home cleaning or cooking and taking good care of the kids. And as the time goes by, wives are now career women either in online or offline business just to help their husbands to earn more for the family. Actually, these things are all correct but there is much more than these responsibilities. Here are the responsibilities of a wife to her husband:
To Love Him For The Rest Of Your Life
Loving him for the rest of your life is your number one responsibility as a wife to him. You love him so you will devote yourself to him. Loving him means you are always there not just cooking him a delicious meal or giving him massage whenever his tired; loving him means you are his number one listener and the first person to understand him whatever happens. Most men are not outspoken so as a wife, you will be the one to make him more comfortable talking about all things under the sun.
“Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” Titus 2:4-5
To Be His Cheerleader
To be his cheerleader means you are the responsible of making him feel fine when life is not agreeing on his side. You are not just a wife but you are also his best friend. Remind him about how beautiful life is because as everyone knows men tend to hide what they feel if there ego or pride is at stake. They are secretive about what they feel because they are afraid to be judged or being misinterpreted by other people. Show him that you have a positive outlook in life so that whenever he sees you, his confidence is always there.
“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” Ephesians 5:22 – 24
To Help Her Taking Care Of Your Family And Kids
Being a woman is not easy but glory to God, women can still strive in any trials the world gives. How much more of being a wife and a mother? Being a wife is the most noble job in this world. You are not just taking good care of your home but most especially you are serving and dedicating your life to your husband and to your children. The most amazing thing about being a woman at home is you are a wife and a mother 24/7 of your life and there is no holiday or pause for it. It is not an easy thing but a priceless job that you will always be proud of.
“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: ‘Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.’ Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate” (Proverbs 31:10-31) 
To Bring Him Closer To God Or To Be More Intimate To God
The most important responsibility a wife can do for his husband is to draw him closer to God and accompany him to be more intimate to God. It is always a good thing that both of you will read and meditate with the Lord. Soak in His presence together and share something about what new revelation God is giving you. Do life together and love Jesus together. This is one of the best things you can treasure to your children. They will see Jesus in your lives and that is priceless. Set a good example to everyone and that is your  responsibility as a couple to God.
“The role we have as wives is that of encouraging and helping our husbands. When we try to make it any more, or any less, that’s when we run into trouble. My mom used to teach a young married couples class, and I will never forget her most ‘valuable nugget’ of truth. She always told them that the husband is the head of the home, and the wife is the neck. The neck supports the head, and helps the head to fulfill its duties.” – Anonymous

A Healthy Relationship

A Healthy RelationshipYou cannot love someone if you do not love yourself first. You cannot give something that you do not have, right? If you want to have a healthy relationship with someone, you need to have a healthy self-esteem first before having a relationship with someone. How will you know if you are ready for commitment or ready for marriage? These are the things you need to check on yourself:

Your Mood

Everyone loves hearing compliments from other people. But what if others are saying negative things against you? Does it change your mood? You will know if you are ready for a relationship or you are already mature if you know how to control your emotion especially if you will hear something you do not want to hear.

Controlling yourself not to get angry easily is one proof that you are a mature person. Instead of confronting that someone, you manage not to care about it and you just live your own life that way you want. You can manage a relationship if you know how to manage yourself in the first place.

Others’ Reaction

Do you always find yourself pleasing everyone? Do their reactions really affect your entire day? You cannot please everybody so you do not have to think of others’ reaction if they see a quality from you that they do not like. Nobody is perfect so what they can do is accept your flaws or imperfections. Even themselves are not perfect too so you do not have to worry about that.

You will find yourself mature or ready for a relationship if you know that no one is perfect but everyone can do their best to be a better person before and during the stage of marriage.

Capability

Do you picture yourself entering marriage? Do you see it for a lifetime? There are individuals that they choose to get married because they just want companion but actually they are not yet capable to give out love because they do not even ready to commit. They still need to give time for themselves to be ready for it and to know exactly what marriage is all about. Marriage is really a big word that you cannot jump into it anytime you want.

Responsibility

Are you ready for a bigger responsibility? In marriage, you just do not need to think of your own good but for your partner’s as well. Before entering to marriage, you need to check yourself if you are ready for a bigger responsibilities and these responsibilities are mostly new to you. You need to have a bigger understanding first before entering the life of being married.

Mastering Marital Money Matters

Mastering Marital Money MattersOne of the most common marital speed bumps can be found in the checkbook. You may assume that tension is a natural consequence when money is tight – and it certainly can be. What we don’t realize, even when we’re in the midst of it, is that different money management styles can cause friction in a fiscally secure marriage too.

When Spender Marries Saver

After the church offering is given and the bills are paid, what do you do? Do you transfer some of the money remaining to savings or investments? Or, are you an innate spender? Does having a little left-over mean it’s time to splurge on something you wouldn’t normally indulge in? The real issue isn’t how you answer, actually. It’s how you and your spouse answer. When you have two different approaches, tensions can arise. Take a moment to sit down and talk this one out. Make a plan you can both be happy with in the short and long terms.

Mine. No Ours.

Whether you’re a single-income or dual-income family, take note, whatever money comes into the household is household money. Shift the focus of your fiscal conversations from “mine and yours” to “ours.” When we keep score of who earns what, resentment can rear its ugly head – whether it’s the urge to pull rank on spending decisions or insecurity over how much you contribute to the family bottom line. Remember that family support and contribution is much more than what’s in a paycheck. Don’t keep score.

Budget Together.

Hopefully you sat down and talked about short- and long-range plans before you got married. This is a good thing to do several times a year throughout your marriage too. Get on the same page. Are you saving for a home? Should your family budget include line items to save for college and retirement? Do you want to go on a vacation? Are you concerned about how much you’re spending on entertainment vs. squirreling away for a rainy day? Carve time out to discuss the family’s overall budget needs. Pray over it and then commit to a plan you can both live with.

Challenge: Like most anything in a marriage, money can be the elephant in the room that we tend to ignore. Take time this week to discuss your family budget. Work as a team to identify a budget you can both be happy with.

Marriage and Faith Lessons from Joseph

Marriage and Faith Lessons from JosephI’ve been thinking about Joseph. We sing about baby Jesus, Mary, shepherds and their flocks, three kings of Orient, a drummer boy and a host of angels. But we don’t typically strike many notes in honor of Joseph. It’s not just the songs, either. In the Bible, we only read of his reaction to the news of Mary’s pregnancy in Matthew. The only other Gospel to write of the Christ birth, Luke, doesn’t mention Joseph until the young couple is packing their bags for Bethlehem. He’s almost the forgotten man in the Christmas story. Yet, Joseph has a lot to teach us.

Respect and Honor

When Joseph first learns of Mary’s pregnancy he contemplates divorce. Matthew tells us that Joseph was faithful to the law, but because he did not want to disgrace Mary, he plans to do so quietly. Surely he was hurt and angry. His betrothed is pregnant. The baby isn’t his and she’s trying to convince him the child was conceived by the Holy Ghost. How many of us would handle things quietly so as not to disgrace her? How often do we, in our angry and wounded place, lash out, or even go public with our story? Joseph, on the other hand, remains respectful. What an amazing role model!

Trust

Matthew tells us that the angel of the Lord appears to Joseph in a dream and discloses God’s plan. As much as I hope I’d have the faith to accept such a divine dream at face value, I wonder if doubt would nag at me. Not Joseph, however. After waking, he takes Mary home as his wife. Joseph placed his trust in faith and through that, he placed his trust in his wife. Can we say the same?

God-Centered Life and Marriage

You might say it’s hard not to keep God at the center of your marriage when your first born is the Messiah. Yet, before young Jesus spoke his first word, Joseph and Mary were faithful. They took their infant son to temple for the purification rites as prescribed by Mosaic Law. Joseph accepts, on blind faith, the instructions of another angel dream to move his infant son and wife to Egypt and later to Nazareth. It’s easy to get caught up in our day-to-day and lose focus on God at the center of our lives and our relationships. Joseph’s faith is an example to us.

Challenge: This week, as you countdown the final days before Christmas, spend time getting to know Joseph. What will you learn from Jesus’ earthly step-father?