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Married Loneliness? Time to Connect with Christ Part 1

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You’re sitting there right now, your spouse in the room, and dialog from your television is humming in the background. One of you is on the TV; the other is on this page. In your mind, you’re playing over the list of things on your to-do list, and perhaps you’re stewing just a little over how few of them, your spouse has volunteered to take over.

You find yourself thinking back to the earliest days of your relationship when you felt so connected and sure. Now, you are physically together but you are feeling deeply alone. Sound familiar? First, let me reassure you that even in the healthiest of marriages, it happens. The question is: how do we fill in that empty feeling?

You “Don’t” Complete Me

Even if you never saw the film Jerry McGuire you are likely aware of that pivotal relationship moment between Jerry and Dorothy. Standing there, desperate to convey his feelings, Jerry says, “I love you. You…complete… me.” Of course, we connected with that moment because that is what we have been conditioned to look for, isn’t it? We speak of “my other half.” We talk about soul mates. Yet, in doing so, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. The reality is no one person can meet all our needs. When we look for another individual to fill that empty place inside, to complete us and make us whole, we are tasking that individual with the impossible.

Challenge: Where are you seeking fulfillment? Ask yourself this: are you looking to your marriage to meet needs that you should be looking to Christ to meet? Find your lonely place and pray.

After many years of successful relationships in my own life, my mission is to pass on the blessings I’ve received to the many people seeking help in their own lives. I not only help to restore broken marriages, but also friendships, relationships, families etc. I am a faith-based marriage and relationship coach with a mission: To build stronger marriages through faith; to deepen the spirituality of the individual and the couple by accepting an open minded cornerstone of the marriage; to strengthen the communication, commitment, and respect within a marriage through a focus on gratitude, and love.